From the minutes our babies start moving and rolling away we have a dilemma, how far should we let them go? Is it safe to roll away? On the bed, definitely not, elsewhere possibly yes! As they start to grow we have to decide when to leave them at a friends house or a party, when they can walk home from school on their own or take the bus by themselves for the first time.
My 15 year old was unwell on Sunday. When he came home from school on Monday he felt so poorly that he made the decision not to go to a gig at the O2 in London as he didn't think he was up to it. This was his birthday present so it was a big deal but I was very impressed that he was so mature. After a duvet & sleep day at home yesterday he felt much better and has gone to school for the final day today, but now he wants to go to a sleepover tonight. The first reaction is no way, you have been ill, it is too late, you will be bad again or poorly over Christmas, but if he is sensible enough to miss out on the gig surely I must give him credit to make the right decision for tonight? He can come home early if he feels bad, and I have to trust him to get some sleep and not overdo things, but it is another letting go. He is taking responsibility for his own well being and I can see another little bit of my baby has now grown up
Always hard to make a decision when it comes to our kids. I think in your situation i would reluctantly allow him to go as you have said he did make the right decision the other night. He doesnt know this might not be the right one until he tries and he can change his mind.
ReplyDeleteHe has been taught well let him show you.